Reflecting on postpartum a few decades later.
By Angela Potter
Mari has an incredible heart and is so joyful! Her and I have grown up together and now we still live close-by and it is wonderful watching our families grow.
Where do you call home?
How many kids do you have?
One son and one step-daughter
What was one of the hardest changes for you physically during your postpartum journey?
My blood sugar was often unruly and unpredictable due to breastfeeding.
What was one of the hardest changes for you mentally/emotionally during your postpartum journey?
Thinking about how to raise him to be a good man. He's growing up in a weird world that has a lot of ugly, so how will I teach him to be respectful, kind, stand up for the underdog, and do what is right?
My son is constantly on my mind and sometimes that gets in the way of quality time with my husband, who used to be the one on my mind all the time. We're learning how to love each other in a new way.
Also, we started letting Soren cry it out pretty early on and would check on him every 10-15 minutes. Those 10-15 minutes were torture for me emotionally. I felt like I was neglecting my child and that he would feel alone and abandoned (he's happy and secure and knows he is loved and cared for).
What has been your greatest joy in motherhood?
Everything! But to be more specific, falling in love with my son is such a joy. It's a choice to love everyone else in my life, but I can't help loving my son. It's very out of this world. And I have loved watching him learn new things and develop.
What is one resource that felt invaluable to you during the postpartum time?
My husband and other mothers. Not only does Anthony (my husband) has a 9 year old daughter, he also just has a naturally calm knack for babies and continually teaches me so much and keeps me strong when I'm at my lowest.
What is one piece of advice you would like give to pregnant moms in preparation for their postpartum journey?
It's okay if it's hard It's okay if it's easy. Just be honest with how you're doing and let other people support you and rejoice with you.
I'm Mari, 33 years old, wife of my dreamboat hubs, Anthony, and mom to my dreamboat baby boy, Soren, and my bonus daughter, Cecilia. I never had baby fever but I love motherhood more than I thought I would and want more kids now that I actually have one.