By Angela Potter
Where do you call home?
How many kids do you have?
Two boys, ages 9 and almost 11.
What was one of the hardest changes for you physically during your postpartum journey?
Sheer exhaustion and adrenal fatigue. Also, breastfeeding was terrible, due to baby's inability to regulate his needs.
What was one of the hardest changes for you mentally/emotionally during your postpartum journey?
The postpartum time with my second baby was horrible. I was exhausted and I had my toddler who was 19 months old. I felt like I just failed my oldest child because my youngest was NOT easy and never slept. I felt like a failure because the new baby couldn't breast feed very well and I had to pump for 4 months. I was depressed and disconnected from my baby. I literally didn't "like" him (I loved him) for about the first 2 years. :( So sad to say that out loud (or type it).
What surprised you most about the postpartum time?
My brain fog was awful and I couldn't go back to work. At the same time I felt miserable being home alone with two littles all day.
What has been your greatest joy in motherhood?
Watching them grow into the most kind hearted, snuggly, funny boys that they are today. It's amazing how your love can just grow and grow....
How was your postpartum experience different with each baby?
Baby #1 was a great sleeper, so I got actual rest. He was definitely the easier of the two -- from breast feeding to potty training and beyond. I was able to go back to work (part-time) right at the 6 week mark.
Baby #2 - a much different story, read above...AWFUL.
What is one resource that felt invaluable to you during the postpartum time?
The website Kitchen Stewardship because it made me feel like a "good mom". It taught me how to cook for my kids that was from scratch and healthy.
The GYM. My gym has an amazing day care and they took the most crankiest kids as early as we were willing to bring them in. Without that time for myself 4-5x/week, I'm not sure how I would have survived.
What is one piece of advice you would like give to pregnant moms in preparation for their postpartum journey?
You will never be fully prepared. Go in with an open mind, and open heart, and NO expectations of the birth, the postpartum, or of THEMSELVES.
**And, remember that YOUR health matters. You MUST take care of yourself first.
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